June 30, 2019

I was working in my home office (yes on a Sunday, but I digress), and through my window, I saw a police car pull over another car. I saw the police officer get out, walk around the car with his hand on the gun, and make the black 18 year old male get out of his car. Af...

August 28, 2018

True confession. I’m a control freak. Everything has to be in order. Don’t leave the lights on. Ask before you take something.  Put away what you take out.  Go to bed at your exact bedtime and not a minute later.  You can have free-play during this time.  If I ask you...

March 7, 2018

Some of my greatest lessons have come from the most unconventional places.  This one is no different.  I was watching The Bachelor last night (insert side eye, eye roll, gasp, whatever…stop judging), and for those that haven’t heard the tea, the bachelor (Arie) first p...

November 10, 2017

Today was an emotional day for me.  It marks exactly two years that I made the decision to CHOOSE LIFE!  Like many others, I have struggled with weight as long as I can remember.  I bought my outfit for high school senior pictures at Lane Bryant (plus size store for wo...

October 3, 2017

Do you think you're not smart enough? Not pretty or handsome enough?  Unworthy of happiness?  Even without you saying it, people can sense the way you feel about yourself. If you feel badly about yourself and communicate or operate from a weakened state, people will as...

September 8, 2017

Admit it, you’ve become accustomed to your fears.  It’s become your habit. It’s such a habit that not an hour goes by where you are not thinking about your fears. Most of us spend our entire life harboring our fears; feeding them, exaggerating them, and adding new ones...

September 1, 2017

Back in 2008, we started creating vision boards. After watching the movie, The Secret, we were drawn to the benefits of visualization of what you want to show up in your life. We came across an old vision board last night we created in 2009. We were two years into our...

August 30, 2017

Have you ever been in a relationship where you lost yourself? When you met your partner, you were your own person; independent, sexy, and spontaneous. Then, one day you look at yourself and realize you have no idea who you are: you’ve gained weight, you’re no longer ad...

August 17, 2017

I started burning myself at the age of 15. A friend and I burned ourselves in an attempt to engrave a symbol on our arms. After going to the local mall and buying a book on witchcraft, we decided we needed a symbol of our commitment to our new two-person coven. We drew...

June 10, 2017

It still amazes me what Stacey and I are able to accomplish TOGETHER. It has never proven more true than it did sitting next to Stacey as we both wait to walk across the stage to obtain our Master's degrees. I was inspired to be in the presence of so many fellow gradua...

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